For some reason when my fiance proposed to me it changed our relationship. I do not know if it is me or him or perhaps a little of both. We know we love each other very much and we are intended to be married. We both want a family and a home in our area where we can retire one day. We agree on all issues and can settle any disagreements easily. With all of that being said we suddenly seem be two different people. We have tried to work through it but we are hitting a wall with each other. I do not recognize this relationship. We seem to be lost within it. I do not know how to fix this. It breaks my heart to see the wedding invitations all made out and sitting on the table by the door all ready. In my heart I do not know if I should mail them. I do not understand what is happening to us. I have noticed that Ben has not picked them up to mail either. I think we are both wanting to see how the other feels by who takes the invites. The invites still sitting there means neither of us seem ready. In my head I think perhaps I should make the first move but my heart leaves them on the table. We are running out of time so we need to make a move one way or another.
When my sister planned her wedding no one knew she was planning on including her lizard! Her favorite color has always been green and that love of green lead to her having a vivid interest in lizards. No one ever sees her without her veiled Chameleon on her somewhere. That lizard and and her are inseparable. His name is Vinnie. We all expected to see him mentioned on the invitations. The wedding favors are small sand cast statues of her beloved lizard which should have given us an idea. Her fiance loves Vinnie as she does which is why he is still around. She has had other boyfriends but she felt they were not right for her and her lizard. This guy is perfect. He keeps her in check and appreciates her quirkiness without trying to change her. She has two pot bellied pigs and her lizard that will make up her immediate family. Her fiance is ready for the responsibilities. They have already bought a home in the country for their soon to be menagerie to live. We are all excited for them as they are a match that was meant to be. They compliment each other perfectly. When my sister tried on her wedding gowns she remarked to each one that her lizard could sit in this spot or that. It had the sales attendant in stitches. She began choosing dresses that catered to patches for lizards to sit so he could see the entire wedding event while hanging on! She did not need to encourage her.
Every since my daughter was again began dating her high school sweetheart we have had our concerns. They had a difficult break up. They had been dating all through high school and then they both went away to college. She returned without him to finish her college courses locally. She was truly hurt when they broke up. Then it seemed rather quickly he brought home a new girlfriend with a ready made family. They were very happy and being our neighbors we saw a lot of them. We have been friends with that family for many years which could have made things awkward if we let it. We thought they would marry one day but of course we also thought he would marry our daughter. After his girlfriend broke up with him to return to her old boyfriend who happens to be her child’s father he was so devastated. He turned to my daughter’s understanding heart to ease his pain. We warned her to not get involved with him once more. It hurt her too much before and we felt he would only do it again if he found someone else to try out! We could tell they were getting very close as they spent every free moment together. They had a difficult time telling us they were engaged. They knew there would be doubts on our part and there are. I want them both happy but it is easy to see he is still not over his ex. She can not see that and neither can he frankly. Then when he ordered the personalized napkins for his wedding with his old girlfriend’s name on them it just confirmed what we felt. I hope when he does get over it he is happy with my daughter because they are now married.
When we ordered our wedding invitations I knew I wanted that little piece of tissue paper inside of them. I think it makes them look so elegant. I realize the reason for that paper is no longer necessary but I still like the elegant look of detail it provides. I have always loved the look of old school invitations. They just seem so proper. We found a place online that has the old style invitations and they include the tissue. I think that would be a perfect invitation for our formal wedding. We are going to go all out with our wedding. I am so glad I have a family that ranks high in society as my father always says. We have to act a certain way because people are watching us and they expect certain decorum with our actions. I have always tried to present myself well more for my parents sake than my own. However as I have grown up and now see the benefits of this lifestyle I easily see why my parents guided us in the path they did. I never take anything for granted and am thankful every day for what we have been given. My parents have worked hard for what we have just as everyone else parents do. Owning several large companies means my dad is busy most of the time. He takes time out of his schedule to make us feel loved but we do have to be scheduled in. We had to plan this wedding when my dad could afford to have time off so he could be relaxed while we enjoyed time together. After the wedding we are all taking a family vacation together. I am thrilled for that time together.
If you think about it there are a few places within a wedding design that holds huge status. One of those places would have to be the top of the wedding cake. Just think how important the cake is. Everyone looks at it before you cut it. It is a masterpiece of decadence in most cases which makes what graces the top of it vital. That was the argument I gave my fiance. I love to see the different wedding cake toppers on cakes. He had never noticed them before. He thought it was a standard groom and bride with their arms wrapped together. I told him he was in for a huge surprise. I showed him the selection I found online. This was a great location to show our personalities. We could have fun with it or not. After our wedding the cake toppers would make keepsakes also so we needed to think carefully about our choices. He thought it was funny that there was yet another decision we had to make about the wedding cake. We had been picking cake flavors and colors for over a week. We then had to choose the design of the cake and how we wanted it presented. They had beautiful pedestals that were so nice or simple plates since the cake was so tall. We had to know the height of the table that we would use for it as well. It was really crazy but that made it exciting. The cake is important.
There is a product on the market that helps to reduce the splotches that can come up on our skin for many different reasons. I learned about it when I read the meladerm reviews. I had heard about it before but I wanted to know more. I like to read reviews so I know what experiences others are having when they use a product. You can also learn a lot about a product when you read the reviews. A friend of mine has had issues for many years with her skin. She has tried so many products. It is embarrassing to her as she tries to cover up the discolorations. They are not in places she can simply ignore. She is a business woman and struggles with this problem as she is constantly presenting items in front of her clients. She does not want a a distraction caused by her skin and she feels it is very distracting if she does not cover it up. Her proof of that is after a presentation one afternoon a lady from the group of potential clients offered her some cover stick before she went back in for more presentation. She was mortified and promised herself to never let that happen again. This product could be just what she needs.
I knew the minute we called the wedding planner that every thing was going to work out. We met with her and explained all of the things we wanted within our wedding. My fiance went first and then I went on to tell what I thought we needed. She was not at all surprised at the fact we were so far apart on what we wanted our wedding to be. She said it is a common thing for couples to make compromises on their wedding decorations. I have had many friends that did not even work together on their weddings. The bride and her mom did every thing and the groom did not even care. They always said they wished their fiances would have helped. All I can say is be careful what you wish for! Of course I do want Keith to have his dream wedding as well but I wish it was not so far from my idea of a dream wedding. If I really think about it I am really lucky that my fiance cares enough about his wedding that he wants it to be perfect. He is a very caring person. He did not actually get upset with my much less formal wedding ideas so I suppose I could give a little on a more formal wedding plan. I do like the idea of being pampered at my wedding. I think our guests would like the extra details such as personalized napkins and wedding flutes of crystal as well.
It is not a difficult thing to see how stressful wedding plans can be. There is a lot of emotion running wild as well as expenses being addressed. That is what happened as Bonnie and Bobby began planning their wedding. They felt so much pressure to impress every one. They were going to settle for nothing less than the best of the best at every thing. For that reason their wedding budget was blown within the first few weeks. This was not great news for Bobby who likes to have total financial control. The strain was showing in both of their faces. Having this large party for Bobby’s birthday was probably not the best idea either but Bonnie insisted on it. She is trying to keep every thing as normal as she can. After finding her crying in her room I knew I needed to help her handle the stress. I could help her to package her wedding favors and get the final arrangements in order to help take off some of her duties but her relationship would be up to her and her fiance to work out. It is a sad thing to think a negative atmosphere could come from wedding plans but I have seen it happen on several occasions. Stress is stress no matter what the root of it is and it changes people. Every thing will work itself out they just have to talk about it and understand it will pass.
The door opens and there stands my mom. She is happily preparing dinner for the four of us. She can tell there is something on my mind even though we are making small talk. She whispers to me if something is wrong. I tell her I need to talk to her. She is concerned. She takes me by my arm and heads outside with me. The look in her eyes is total concern. I wanted Steve and I to make this announcement together but the more I thought about it perhaps I should talk to mom first alone so we could get through it if it hurt her. I wanted to see what her reaction was first. If it was too much I was prepared to go back to the formal church wedding. I would never want to cause my mom any heartache. After all she and I had planned this formal church wedding for her to experience it as much as for me. She had not had this type of wedding but she wanted one as much as I did. It was as if we were both going to be married! Telling her that we are not going to have a formal wedding after all but rather a simple wedding on our new farm after all of that work could prove to be too much for her. We sat down and I began to explain to her our wedding plan changes. To my surprise she just sat and listened. Not a word she spoke. Then she said ,” Do you mean we get to plan it all over again?” I was shocked at her answer! She was not hurt at all. She was excited that we would once again have another wedding to plan and more wedding decorations to shop for. She already was coming up with ideas. She said that she has only one child and yet she gets to plan two weddings! I should have known my mom loves me no matter what!
Even though we have changed our wedding location from a church wedding to a wedding on our newly purchased farm I still wanted to keep my personalized napkins. I had ordered all of my decorations for a formal wedding. Steve and I did not dream of having our wedding any where else but our church. Then one afternoon we were taking a drive out in the country. We passed by a farm that we have always dreamed of being ours one day. To our surprise we saw the man of the house getting his mail. We stopped to tell him how beautiful his property was. He looked shocked that we stopped and said that is funny we said that because they had decided to sell just that morning! They are empty nesters and the property is too much for them to keep up as they want it kept. We were shocked and told them do not sell it to anyone but us. We actually discussed price on his driveway and off we went to make purchase arrangements. In one month they were out and we were in! Steve is not one for change so I could see he was still in shock as we moved the few items we had into the farm. We had not lived together so we had to figure out what we wanted to keep and what we did not need two of. Since it was a far bigger place than either of us had we were able to find a use for most of our stuff. Steve says he is in “happy shock”.